In this day and age it seems just about as popular as ever to get married. Sure we tend to do it later than we once did but the majority of people still aspire to get married at some point in their lives and some even seem to be trying to get married multiple times.
The thing that some people get worried about is the fact that so many of these marriages are now ending in divorce. At the first sign of problems in marriage some couples throw in the towel and head for the divorce courts were they divide up the belongings they have accumulated and fight over who gets to keep the kids, like they are some sort of inanimate object that can be carted around by whoever win.
Its strange that we spend so much time setting up our lives together, spending so much time on the marriage ceremony and give up on it so quickly when 50 years ago we would have done anything to keep the partnership going. It seems in a lot of instances that no sooner have the DIY wedding invites been sent out to the guests and already the relationship is starting to crumble.
Where has this effort gone that we used to put into keeping a marriage together, or did it really ever exist. Its possible that the happy days of marriage were all an illusion and that the only reason divorce rates were so low was that couples were scared to break up because society itself was so strict and people were scared to break the rules.
These days we might try and postpone a breakup for the sake of the kids but in the past we did so because to divorce was to be seen as a failure in life, breaking the rules of society and those of God. These days of course the inhabitants of the UK are a little more relaxed about their religious views so we don’t have the same fear of eternal damnation if we suddenly realise that we don’t like our partner quite as much as we once did.
In my view its a good thing that we feel we can split up if we are no longer happy in our marriage, I wouldn’t someone to feel trapped in a relationship which made them miserable. 50 odd years is a long time to remain attached to one person, perhaps too long.
In the past, when life expectancies were shorter it was perfectly reasonable to get married and expect to be with someone for the rest of your lives if one of you was going to be dead in 15 years. These days getting married to the wrong person would mean fifty years of constant torture, not something I would wish on anyone. The person you fall asleep with each night should make your life more beautiful and if that isn’t the case you should be free to split up if you want, just try not to have kids before you find that out.
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